“Some Pursue Happiness, Others Create It” Write Inside Yourself to Your Emotional Well-Being
Coach, Coach yourself … Is a play on the Bible verse asking the physician to heal themselves. As we know coaching or healing oneself is more challenging than healing another, simply because we are cleaner in our intentions for the client or friend or second person, however to work on ourselves involves the need to get calm and clear and detached.
Calm in order to be able to actually treat ourselves and not get overwhelmed by the emotions arising within us.
Clear in order to see what is the truth of the pain or situation. Too many times we blame others for our pain when we set ourselves for that disappointment. We hold beliefs that we never tested or communicated and we expect the other to be aware and meet those unsaid needs.
Detached so that we can treat or coach ourselves with the same professionalism and intensity we do with another person. Have you ever seen movies where the person has been shot and they try to sew themselves up by themselves? Bloody and scary are the main reasons why we can’t really coach ourselves.
So each year I take on a coach or a coaching program so that I keep myself on the edge of the coaching work I do. I believe strongly that I need to take the same medication I prescribe to my peak performing clients.
These journaling exercises are my coaching questions to myself — to help me get calmer, clearer and leave my brain on a piece of paper so I can look at myself in the most detached and compassionate way possible.
In 2017, I choose Lifebook with Mindvalley to be my coaching program for the year. It is a powerful 12 category search into what you personally want and by answering and making your own Lifebook — yes written chapters with pictures and quotes, you can start to hold yourself accountable to the life you want to recreate -intentionally. Not be accident or by chance.
I started asking myself questions — probing deep pressing questions on the what mattered to me in 12 different categories of life. I am sharing my journal entries here and my musing and final commitments as this is what the self awareness journey looks like. Truly never ending and always a discovery. The pursuit of excellence in my life is not to be an achievement in life but to come to terms with who I really am. You and I are 100% Potential and if we don’t spend enough time grazing inward to bring outward, that gift would be lost to the world. And such a waste that would be …
So join me and journal .. your way into this Category of Emotional Well-Being.
Lifebook Question: Your Premise refers to the foundational beliefs you hold about this category of Emotional Life. What do you believe?
I believe that I can always be happy and handle my emotions well. My well being is within my influence and also my greatest responsibility in order to have harmonious relationships with myself and others.
Lifebook Question: Your Vision refers to the ideal state you would like to achieve in this important category.
I want to be happier, calmer, more experiences of bliss. I have better body wisdom, which are signals from deep within me, coming to tell me something about some aspect about reality. I am an expert at managing challenging emotions in myself and other people; I am called to mitigate high profile businesses and conflicts.
My willingness to experience my feelings has a direct healing power, it clears the way for me to deal with any issue, any wound, or any hurt in my life and those around me and my career. When I listen to what my emotions are trying to tell me, I become intimately connected with the deepest part of myself.
I want to laugh and make people laugh more often
List of things I don’t want
- Stress
- Anger
- Anxiety
- Feeling Unsupported
- Not fully valued
I want to plan ahead and remove stress + drama — so I need to define things to steer clear of
Lifebook Question: Your Purpose refers to the compelling reasons behind what you want in this category. What are your compelling reasons?
My Purpose for my Conscious Emotional State:
1. I will develop very high emotional intelligence
2. Laugh, cry, feel, share true feelings
3. Understand what emotions are telling me
4. Learn from the wisdom
5. Master my emotional states
6. Flood self with these states regularly/daily: happiness, joy, love, confidence, self-esteem, passion, sensuality, compassion, fulfillment, courage, empathy, contentment
7. Extraordinary attitude
8. Positive permeate in all ways I am in the world — Talk, Dress, Way, Walk
9. Be great, Feel Good on a constant basis
10. Vulnerable, loving, nurturing, healing, wisdom, magic, passion, curiosity, marvel, beauty
11. Write about human magic, mystery
12. BIG WHY: Emotional Intelligence is mandatory to achieve the goals I set for myself
13. To mentor and to bring out the best, I cannot fall into the emotionality of the circumstances
14. I want to be a Healer / Peacemaker / Thought leader
15. I want to be the Real me = 100% me
16. I know I am a Mask, and I am a wearer of emotional masks and to be aware means I am not only stuck in these social masks I wear and so I can be able to change and grow and be real
Lifebook Question: What is your Happiness Recipe — try to run this program as much as you can.
1. Sunsets
2. Friends who see me and honour my amazingness and my vulnerability
3. Being by the Beach
4. Being by and in Water
5. Great food + ambience
6. Learning
7. Beautiful places
8. Antiques
9. Décor
10. My home
11. Glamor dressing
12. Style
13. Comedy
14. Cuddles
15. Dancing
16. Singing
17. Swimming
18. Seeing new things / surprising / quirky
19. Great sex
20. Sensuality
Lifebook Question: Your Strategy refers to the specific actions that will get you from where you are now to where you want to be.
Meditate, journal, use the Enneagram and coaching, personal development retreats, regularly question and explore my limiting beliefs and rules for living. Take standup comedy and humour class, and infuse humour into my training more consistently.
“happiness is when
what you think, what you say,
and what you do are in harmony.”
mahatma gandhi
Journaling Exercises for you
Spend 2 minutes answering each sentence completion, writing non-stop.
Watch for themes and intense feelings or something that pops out.
Use this as a way of conversing with yourself around your Emotional Well-Being. Then return to the questions above and craft the way you would like your Emotional State to be in 2018. And choose it.
Emotional Life
1. If I stay connected with what I truly feel I will start today to …
2. Emotional Intelligence teaches me …
3. I know that all of my emotions are only bits of energy manifested in my body
4. By being … and observing my emotions, I can release them
5. I’ve experienced the feeling of just observing my … as they happen, and I know that’s the first step to mindfulness
6. I can get better at understanding my emotions by if I …
7. Knowing my emotions is nothing more than …
